Founder—May-Tal

What sober is to most is not what sober is to me.

To be “sober” is to be in a habitual state of not drinking. Or using. To me, the word was invented as an aspirational sort of thing. A word designed for people who want to try to change. But if we’re being honest with ourselves—the same way I’m going to be honest with you—to try and to change are two very different things.

For me, the words “being sober” contain a sense of never-ending struggle. It’s a powerful word that many use as an energetic symbol to help people abstain from addiction. “Just one day at a time,” the self-declared sober folks say. I don’t know about you, but “one day at a time” sounds like a pretty shitty way to approach the rest of your life to me.

That’s one of the reasons why after 18 years of not using drugs or alcohol, I don’t call myself "sober" I don’t attend meetings or collect sobriety chips. I don’t believe in that kind of magical force that comes with such an idea. Instead, I believe in tapping into our natural state. I believe in our ability to take responsibility for our own lives and solve our own problems. So a long time ago when I bet on myself. I ended up OVERCOMING myself.

I believe that once you have come to terms with your issues (you know, those shameful, ugly ones at the core of your addiction) and deal with them head-on, there is no more abstaining. And therefore, there is no longer an addiction.

That’s why to me, there is no word to describe me and my life, other than that of BEING. After all, I was brought into this world without anything.

In most programs, they say that if you’re an addict, you are branded as “forever an addict. You are diseased. That you are powerless and or you must surrender yourself to a god. I choose to look at it a different way. For me, all that I am is encompassed by the way I choose to walk through this world with the body I carry with me. My present self is not burdened by the mistakes of my past. I don’t force myself to be naturally who I am, I just am. Everyday I wake up and I’m just ME. It’s not something I feel the need to break free from. My feelings, my love, my desire, my mess, my stress, it’s all pure. And without that state of purity, it would mean I’ve been altered, tempered, or interfered with.  There is only one voice that exists inside of me. It’s not that of my family, my friends, a sponsor, a group, or an organization. The only voice in my head is my own.

And nothing in this world is worth giving that up.

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Bet on yourself with me.

Let's ask the questions that will retrieve the much needed answers required in order to overcome. Not by listening to the voices on the outside; but by following the guidance and wisdom of the one inside of YOU.






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